I'm totally new to all this but I want to explore the Master side of me; the part of me that wants to dominate another guy and enjoy bondage, role-play etc. I love ass play, fuckin’ and get off on the thought of another guy worshipping my cock, ass, balls, body and submitting to my demands. I've been watching porn featuring bondage scenes and the sight of a guy helpless submitting to his Master is so fuckin’ hot! It's more than just fucking and cumming; it's the whole mind game of submission, control and exploring limits.
I don't really know where to start as a novice top and how I go about securing a bottom/slave. Any suggestions you might have would be very much appreciated.
Jon
Your question is a large one - huge... the thing is to start slow and build up your experience. There is an element of danger in most things until you know what you are doing and how to read the situation. Same with SM. If you immobilize your playmate then you become responsible for both of you.
Even though you are not a bottom I would strongly suggest you go and have a session as a bottom with an experienced TOP - one you trust. Either through a contact list or pay a professional. (The advantage of a professional is you can be more upfront about what you want to experience and why. Even as a TOP they are sort of a service industry - but don't tell 'em that ;-). It's a figure of speech.) But the point is: until you know how it feels it's hard to do the business. It's not about how hard you hit but the way you create a scene - the mentality of it. And as you become more experienced, the emotional depth.
Have a read through my site. There is quite a bit on there. On the links pages you will find some sites with free listings (www.guyspank.com for example) and you can put up a contact ad.
You could try seeing if an older more experienced TOP would let you apprentice with him - playing second TOP. That way you can see how it’s done and be involved and still be TOP. But nothing beats taking the bottom role at least once.
But much you just have to find out for yourself as you grow into the role. Just remember SM is a game of equals played out in a theatre of inequality. ALWAYS respect the bottom you are dominating and make sure you keep him safe and leave him feeling good about himself (and you).
