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Q:My friend and I are kind of new to the S&M play but we are interested in knowing how you go about shaving the penis and balls to remove all the hair? Are there certain products that are used to do this? I assume you cut off as much as possible with scissors, but how do you get it completely smooth? Electric razor? Also, how long does it take for the hair to grow back like it initially was?

Q: I'm 18 and want to become a bottom. I want to know how to contact TOPs in my area that could take me in and teach me all there is to know. I need to know who to see and/or where I need to go.

Q:I am going for my first scene. I am not sure what to expect. Will there be video cameras and/or photos taken? If so, what happens to them? Would the Top give them to me to remember the scene or keep them himself, or both?

I get quite a few emails asking my advice on SM and related subjects. I have no wish to set myself up as "authority" but a number of guys have written to say they would like me to include a Question and Answer section [example]. So, here are a few recent questions. To read my answers click on the red button to the right. Newest entries at the foot of the page.

Please remember these are simply my personal views and should not be misunderstood as either guarantees or recommendations. All of us make up our own minds and are responsible for our own actions.

If you email with a question I will reply if I can and, if I think it is interesting, I will add it to these pages (with all personal references removed to ensure your anonymity). But remember I do this in my spare time, so I cannot promise to answer every email.

Q:What should I expect if a Master describes himself as a “Military Officer”, or “army type” or the like. Is it some kind of code indicating a particular level of harshness or his preference for particular kinds of ‘tortures’?

Q:I'm a 21-year-old sub into spanking and domination. One thing I love after a spanking is some hot ass-play. I've come to like it more and more and want to try new things.

Q:I was wondering if you recommend some gear that a bottom might wear during a scene. Information about different cock rings, collars, gags, etc. and when a Master would force his bottom to wear them would be great.

Do you have any ideas of how to make ass-play (not sex, but with toys) more intense and hotter? I have used some basic toys, but are there other toys out there you'd recommend? Are there certain techniques or things a TOP could use on me to increase the pleasure and intensity?

Q:I am 24 and a novice TOP. I am very turned on by the cane and want to use it on a guy but don't have much actual experience yet. Can you give me some pointers on the choice of a good cane and how to use it propery? Thanks.

Q:I'm totally new to all this but I want to explore the Master side of me; the part of me that wants to dominate another guy and enjoy bondage, role-play etc. I love ass play, fuckin’ and get off on the thought of another guy worshipping my cock, ass, balls, body and submitting to my demands. I've been watching porn featuring bondage scenes and the sight of a guy helpless submitting to his Master is so fuckin’ hot! It's more than just fucking and cumming; it's the whole mind game of submission, control and exploring limits.

I don't really know where to start as a novice Top and how I go about securing a bottom/slave. Any suggestions you might have would be very much appreciated.

Q:I am an experienced bottom yet in all the sessions I have had over decades, the one paramount thing which never occurred was: my tears. I have had extreme sessions with up to 2000 cane strokes (see photo) breaking skin deep in the buttocks' flesh, and there were no tears. I never found a Top able to make me cry, despite my strong wish for it. What to do to bring me to honestly and unashamedly cry, with true and abundant tears during a session? Do you know any Top either in Europe or in the US who could help? I need it for my total surrender, sexual and otherwise (I need it for my sanity I'd say) and have never yet been able to get it.

Q: I'm 31 and starting out as a new Master. I have a bottom that is into pain, especially to his nipples. Is there some really painfull ways you can hurt a guy's nipples real bad ?